"Two girlfriends and I are going to a spa overnight. We have already scheduled our massages and facials, manicures and pedicures. We will enjoy meals that somebody else has cooked and not have to wash the dishes or worry about cleaning up the spilled milk. We'll drink a little wine, soak in a hot tub, catch up on girl talk and stay up late if we want because we can sleep in the next morning!" says Melissa from the ivillage.
Wow. That sounds amazing, right, moms? How many times in the last few days have you thought to yourself, "I just need some time to myself." You want to read your book or chat with your friends or just go out. And society says we deserve to have that time for ourselves. I've even heard mom-time compared to the oxygen masks on airplanes--if you don't take time for yourself, how can you be there for your kids?
I wonder, though, how many moms who have lost a child or who have an empty nest look back and say, "Man, I wish I had taken more me-time." I look at how fast my children are growing up, and I'm overcome thinking that I don't have enough time with them. What if today is the last day I'll have with my kids--do I really want to spend my day wishing for more ME time? After all, isn't that desire for me time really rooted in selfishness? We don't want to serve others--we want to serve ourselves. Or, better yet, have others serve us!
What if our kids or our husband or our friends couldn't wait to get away from us? What if God needed Me-time? The Bible says that we should "take every thought into captivity." I'm going to start taking my selfish thoughts into captivity. I'm going to start thinking about how much I love to spend time with my kids--how I can't get enough of my kids!
Need some quiet time? Wake up an hour or two earlier--like a friend of mine. She spends a quiet morning with her coffee and her Bible every morning to prepare herself for the day. If you're a night owl, put your work away when the kids go to bed. Instead of watching tv or checking facebook, take a bath and read a book. Your time is in your hands--and you only have so much of it. Spend your time wisely, giving of yourself so that you don't regret the moments you missed when it's too late.